Tired of church "drama"...

I go to church to worship God and serve Him in the way I believe He wants me to...NOT to be insulted, offended, and get caught up in all sorts of mess that has no place in God's house. I was so hurt, sad, and angry yesterday I left that church never wanting to come back again--and I don't want to feel that way, certainly not about the one place where I have always felt so accepted and comfortable and loved. I know that all this needs to be sorted out and talked over, but I don't know what to say. The person I am upset with does everything with the best of intentions and how do you tell someone like that that they have offended you? Her idea was better than mine and I feel like I have no right to be upset, it's supposed to be about the kids, not about my feelings, right? And yet I feel like I was just slapped or something. Maybe if she hadn't said it in such a condescending way. I've been spoken to like that too many times in my life, by too many people. Then the way she said "well we've always done this..." sort of made me feel left out, like who am I to come in and change things?! But that's just it, if everyone wants to do things the way they've always been done, why bother to bring in new people, why bother to elect new church leaders? It seems so pointless. The same thing happened in VBS, Karen and I wanted to make a couple minor changes and everyone acted like we'd just dropped a bomb in the middle of everything, and I remember feeling the same way, that if they want everything done the way it had always been done then they should have just kept the same people in charge. I am just so frustrated with this position. I know that I can't quit because I made a commitment and I have to stick it out, but I'm so frustrated with it I wonder if church will ever be a happy place again. Before I ever even gave the okay for my name to appear on that ballot I prayed, God, is this what you want? I prayed for Him to decide the outcome, for Him to let the person win that He wanted in the position. So when it turned out that I won, I assumed that it was what God wanted. Was I wrong? Does God not do things that way? I feel lost and more confused than ever.
Anyway, on a happier note, the dinner with my family yesterday was wonderful. We all had such a great time. The only sad thing was that Heidi and Kegan couldn't be there, but wouldn't you know, just as I sat down to eat, the phone rang and it was her! So that was very nice :-) My dad and Ed even talked and I just thought, wow, God works in truly amazing ways! Three years ago my dad and Ed did not get along at all, so much so that he wouldn't come to our wedding, and now here we are actually being a real family with the two of them talking (of course it was about football--there's something almost magical about it and how it binds guys together, haha). Anyway, after the chaotic and emotional morning I had, it was nice to just relax and enjoy some family time (good food always helps too!).