24 hours isn't enough

The past few weeks, well months really, have been very stressful for Ed and I. But with the exception of the argument we had back in September, we've really stood by each other through it all. Yesterday it finally got to us though. We had a pretty big argument. Once again, I don't remember how it started, but I remember a lot of what was said. It was basically Ed yelling at me about never being home and not doing enough housework, and me yelling at him for being too rough on the kids and not being understanding. We both really did have a point. I have been gone a lot lately. Sure, it's not my fault, in order for me to graduate in May I needed to take 5 classes this semester and 5 classes next semester. And Ed knew that, we talked about it over the summer and I told him it was going to be hard on both of us, but he said that he could deal with it. I think he just really didn't know what he was getting in to. Neither did I really. It's also true that I haven't been doing my share of the housework. I'm not lazy (well, not most of the time, anyway) it just seems like every day I have a list of things to do and dishes & laundry don't usually make it to the top. I get the girls off to school, I take care of Erin, I do a quick pick-up and vacuuming of the living room, I study and go to classes, sometimes I have to take my mom to the doctor. In the evenings I make dinner (on the nights that I'm home) and spend time with the girls before they go to bed, and spend time with Ed. I also make time, either in the morning or right before bed to read the Bible and pray. Well, the praying part's easy, I do that anywhere...when I wake up, while I shower, in the car. Bible reading takes time and full attention though. So anyway, I understand where he's coming from, I really do. I know it's been hard on him. He goes to work, comes home and has to be a full-time dad, when actually he's still relatively new at all this. I just don't know what to do. I have always felt that since I'm not at home as much as I'd like to be, when I am there I should be actually spending time with Ed and the girls. So that's what I've been doing; I play with Erin and teach her things, I make sure TJ and Karry and I have our reading time at night, I watch movies or play board games with Ed. I didn't know there was a problem because he never complained before. That's how we ended the "argument" (although by that time it had simmered down into a discussion): I will try to get a little more done around the house during the day, and he will try to be a little more patient with the kids. I will just be praying that God helps us get through the last couple weeks of this semester, and then the next. Then I can get a job and live on a schedule like normal people.